Well this is kinda weird...a big look into my mind, I suppose.

I can't really say that I miss him, or that I will miss him. I did enough of that growing up. He was there, but usually not nearly in the ways I wanted him to be. When he was there, I usually didn't want him to be there. When he was gone, I was usually glad he was gone. It was freedom from him.

He rarely had a problem with me. I stayed out of his way. I really didn't like being in his presence. I was afraid of him. I didn't know what his disposition would be at that moment. It usually wasn't positive, though. The times he was happy didn't last long, and he would snap at the drop of a hat. He would shout and yell, I would leave, never taking his words seriously. 90% of the time it was the alcohol talking anyway. He could yell for hours, but it was rarely directed at me. Only once or twice it got serious with me.

That was after I started sticking up, not even for myself. I have little self-respect, if you haven't noticed, and could care less about people degrading me. It's his targets I would stick up for. This shocked him, but it had to stop. It began to work.

Then there was the time I had to get the focus onto myself so he didn't try to put it on someone else. This is the only time it got physical with me. I'd seen him get physical with each one of my siblings and my mother numerous times, but this was the first and only time with me.

It was over some stupid little thing. He just wanted an excuse to yell at me, and focus on me. I kept the focus on me so the other 2 with me wouldn't be involved. "Say one more thing and I'll smack you!" "Go ahead and hit me, I don't care." Try to get past him, and WHAM! Right to my face. I pushed him back to get past, but then he looked at my mother, then back to me with such rage in his eyes. Did I really just strike back? How?

Thus, it began. He began swinging away. I brought him down and wrestled him until I believed he'd had enough. Then we rose to our feet. He began yelling, my mother in between us. He reached up to hit again, and I moved my mother away and took the hit. Then, I landed my single punch on him, and he turned to spit blood in the sink.

I left the house that night, but before I did, I looked him in the eye and told him I loved him. I told him it wasn't his fault. I came back 2 weeks later.

That was the only time. That night changed him. A couple months later, he went back to the alcohol. He would get angry still, but rarely raised his voice. Then he got diagnosed with cancer.

We thought it was mostly controlled. I went to Basic Training. Then, during the middle, I received a letter from my mother telling me that it was a bad week. They found more cancer in his other lung, his eye, and lymph nodes. I cried that day, but looking back on it now...I cried for my mother. Why did she have to be there alone to care for him?

I continued training, went through AIT...came home for Christmas. He seemed to be doing as good as he could be, trying at least to remain a little positive. He could move by himself, but would just get tired easily. He told me and my brothers how proud he was of us. I told him we had strong influences growing up. I also thought to myself, "we see the negatives of bad choices..." I never hated him, I loved him. It was his choices I hated. Choices we didn't need to be around growing up.

I returned to more training, and came back in February. He was doing way worse. Bedridden, most of the time. Slept all day, so of course he was. The only things he'd get up for were to go to the bathroom or to drink. He had an altered mental status, saying crazy things. My mother stayed home with him all the time now, instead of working. I didn't want to be there, so I was away from home the majority of the month. When I left at the end of the month, I knew it'd be the last time I talked to him. I told him I loved him, he told me he was always proud of me. I kissed his forehead and left.

I left to come here, to South Korea. Too far away from home, if you ask me. Way too far. I felt a little guilty for not spending enough time with my mother. She didn't need to have to deal with all of that by herself. She'd send me updates about her worrying about if she's making the right decisions or not. She asked me for advice, and I did my best. I worried...about her. I'm very blunt about things, so here it is: I knew my father was going to die soon, so I didn't really care about that. What I didn't know was what my mom was going to do afterwards, and how to make her feel more at ease from the other side of the world.

Then, he died. I went home that same day. My mother was okay. We were honestly relieved. No more suffering over him, just grieving now. For me, the grieving was nonexistant. For my mother, it was short.

I went home. It was like nothing changed. He wasn't there, just like I imagined when I was growing up.

Now, I just worry about my mother. She has to change, and deal with being alone. She's never lived alone her whole life.

Once I get out of the Army, she'll always live with me. I won't let her live alone again.

Momma's boy until the end, no matter what...

But I really DO love you, Dad, and always will. I'll continue to make you proud, and I wish I could have changed you sooner.

And by golly, my grieving has begun.

I'm afraid I'm only crying right now for the father I missed out on, and not the one I had. I don't know for sure, and things like that is what scares me the most...not knowing.

My fourth post, I guess...

I've known for a while that the majority of the human race is addicted to drama. People get so bored with their lives that they either have to add some "pizazz" to their own worthless life (by starting a conflict), or the ever-popular prying into other peoples' business. From their, they can either take 2 paths: just sit and watch to get their enjoyment, or feed the flames. Most of the time, they know if they try to help it'll cause more drama. This just encourages most people...either way, people disgust me. I hate the human race, if you haven't already deduced that. Our existance is pointless, at least that's how it seems to me. I just treat everything I do as an experiment to get my own kicks, I don't try to provoke drama...stupid people.

Process of a Thought

In reality, all that exists is thoughts. In reality, thoughts don't exist. In reality, there is no reality. Just thoughts. Confusing, eh? You're telling me! Try being the guy who came up with this nonsense!

So basically, we have the question thought: I wonder...What if? Who? Where? When? How? Most important...Why? Then, you have your hypothesis thought, your self-answering thought. If you come up with a good enough answer, or even if not, it's briefly truth. It becomes your reality for however long you think it's the correct answer. Once you learn a new "correct" answer, that becomes your reality. Basically, we ask, and then we know. There are no in-betweens. Just changes, transitions.

Reality is whatever we perceive. You've probably heard this before...because it's true! Well, at least I perceive it to be true. You could perceive it to be a watermelon-flavored polar bear. That'd make it reality. To you, at least. If you believe something strong enough, it's real to you. Maybe no one else can see or believe it, it doesn't make it any less real. Who are they to infringe upon your reality? They have their own, they should just worry about that.

We see different cultures and say, "oh, why do they do that? Doesn't it bother them?!?!" Of course the answer is "no." It's all they know. It's their life, their reality. They all look at us and think the same thing. They believe what they're doing is the right thing, so it is. Who are we to decide what's right and wrong? We're no one. Who are we to tell people how they should live their lives? Why don't you ask the U.S. Government, I'm sure they have a good reason why they try to control everyone...nevermind.

Anyways, our realities are formed and shaped when we're younger, and become slightly more concrete as we grow. There's still the possibility of some influence changing our lives when we are older, but that depends on how you were raised. If you were raised to be totally stubborn and stick to a few beliefs, then you won't be influenced as easily. If you're raised to be totally, completely open-minded, then your reality will be constantly changing.

I ask you to "think" about this, then "know" whether it's real or not...to you. We all know it's real to me, or at least we think we know. :D

Zombies!!!

Dictionary.com:

Zombie: 1.(in voodoo)
a.the body of a dead person given the semblance of life, but mute and will-less, by a supernatural force, usually for some evil purpose.
b.the supernatural force itself.
2.Informal.
a.a person whose behavior or responses are wooden, listless, or seemingly rote; automaton.
b.an eccentric or peculiar person.

Vampire: 1.a preternatural being, commonly believed to be a reanimated corpse, that is said to suck the blood of sleeping persons at night.
2.(in Eastern European folklore) a corpse, animated by an undeparted soul or demon, that periodically leaves the grave and disturbs the living, until it is exhumed and impaled or burned.

First off, the zombie. Voodoo form is where some other entity has control over the physical body of a corpse. This body can do any physical act the contoller has over it. It has no other controlling factors besides the person controlling it. At no time does this definition say anything about infections.

The other definition, the informal variety, is a common every day occurrence. The person seems unresponsive, mindless, like they have no control over themselves. This is actually a very common thing, as people get used to their lives' schedule. Muscle memory will just pick them up every morning and get them through the day. This could also be said to happen when a person intakes certain drugs or medications. Also, many people who have actually lost control of their minds due to disease or disorders are referred to as "zombies."

Today's society depict zombies as cannibalistic monsters. Most of these zombies have become that way due to some kind of infection. Most of these infections are spread through the biting or scratching of the zombie. Then, in most cases, the human will die, and become reanimated with the same goals: destroy the rest of the living humans.

Zombies have become the stars of many films today. They are also present in a lot of video games. In most of these movies, the zombies are not controlled by anyone, they just roam Earth, feasting on human flesh. In the video games, they seem to do the same, except for Resident Evil 4 and 5. These 2 games seem to be kind of a medium between flesh-eaters and voodoo zombies. They're controlled by one man with the help of parasites, not magic.

Vampires. They were once dead, reanimated to feast on the living. Hey, wait a minute, that's what a zombie's supposed to do! The original depiction of a vampire, is actually how we see zombies, today. They were cannibalistic monsters raised from the dead to feast on human blood. Times have changed, more things began being associated with Vampires...turning into bats, sleeping in coffins, no reflections, creating vampires with a bite etc. A lot of these Vampire-stereotypes began with Bram Stoker's "Dracula." In fact, Count Dracula had nothing to do with vampires...he never drank blood, wasn't ever dead...he did sleep in a coffin, and no one was sure if he had a reflection or not, because he never kept any mirrors in his house. He never turned into a bat, just left rooms mysteriously. Honestly, the book could have been completely, 100% true. Just a story about a paranoid, partially insane man. What exactly is insanity? It's a topic for another day, that's what it is...

Daybreakers is one vampire movie that goes with both real traditional and modern traditional vampires. They're competent when their blood thirst is satisfied, and become crazed when it's not. They also end up exploding if shot, though...

Anywho, now we have the Twilight Series. It's an interesting twist on the new traditional vampires, where they become emo and attend high school. They have superpowers that are bestowed upon them when they are transformed into a vampire. They have laws to guide them so they are to not wipe out the human population. They live forever unless torn apart and burned, and gain more sensibility the longer they are a vampire.

Either way, they should all die...but seriously, if infectious zombies or vampires were on Earth, I believe we'd be screwed no matter what. All these movies and games aren't preparing you for anything. Why would shooting a corpse stop it? It's already a corpse. What's it gonna do, die again? Why is society so interested in watching the possibility of their fellow humans being ripped apart and reanimated to attack each other? What is with the obsession? It's because secretly, you are all zombies being controlled by voodoo. I'm gonna go lock myself on top of a gun store. For any of you who aren't controlled, I wish you luck.

First rant: The Worth of Money

What is money? People think dollar bills, coins, etc. Many different countries have many currencies, all different, but with the same concept: it's a medium of exchange, and a measure of "wealth". There are different ways to store this so-called "wealth", such as savings accounts, security deposits, etc. each with a different liquidity. Inflation and exchange rates rise and fall every minute, because each form of currency has it's backing and gets it's worth based on the amount of gold there is behind it. Gold, a "precious metal". So, in theory, the only thing with worth is gold, right? The more gold you have, the more "wealthy" you are, correct?

Well, what is it we use this money for? To purchase goods. Whether it's needs or wants, the money is used to buy things. Well, wouldn't these things be all that have "worth" then? I mean, the more money we have, the more we can buy. The more we buy, the more power we have. Which means that these things we buy are worth more than the gold. The only problem is, we use these things, and they lose "value". When something is used up, you can't get any more "worth" out of it. But, the use of these items prove their "worth". So what do we use these things for?

We buy them for the people. People use these things! When you are hungry, you buy food, and use it. When you're bored, you buy something to do. When you want to please yourself, or want to show off your "wealth", you buy something to do so. So our wants and needs are the only thing with any true worth. They are all that have value. You lose "wealth" to take care of people, making people more important than your goods you buy, which is more important than gold, which is more important than money.

Wants and needs make people selfish, however. Every single thing we do is for ourselves. Of course there's the buying things for ourselves, that's obvious. But, think about it: when we do something like give to charities, it seems selfless, right? And when you do it, you've helped another person. Sure makes you feel better about yourself, right? Exactly. When you buy things for your kids, you make them happy. I'm sure if you didn't buy them something, they'd be pretty sad. That'd probably make you feel a little guilty, wouldn't it? And no one wants to feel guilty...

So, our own feelings control our needs and wants. Follow the cycle up...and our feelings control everything. The basis behind our entire existence is our own selfishness. Greed runs our lives, whether you admit it or not. There is no selflessness. You die for someone, it is because YOU want that person to live. It all resorts back to what the individual wants The only thing that has any worth to anyone is themselves. Don't sit there and try and think about it, it's how it is, has been, and always will be. Everyone is the most selfish person alive; there's no changing it, just live with it. Quit calling each other selfish, self-absorbed, etc. We are all made with the same greed, just different ways of fulfilling our own selfishness.

That's the worth of money.

This has been a random bored rant by Steven Thiem. I don't think I really accomplished much... But thank you. :)

(hey, I just found the meaning of life! I'd make a pretty good Psychologist, eh? Probably wouldn't fit much into economics or money management with this knowledge that I only want to make myself happy...maybe it's my life's purpose to let everyone know how self-centered they are!!! :P weird thing is, it'd only affect them for a little bit to think about it, but then go right back to how they were before, cuz it's how it's always been anyway...okay, I'll stop now.)